Planning a first date does not have to be stressful, most people just approach it entirely wrong. The first date is merely your way of getting to know the person so you can each decide if you are interested in a second date. It is not an attempt to secure a second date, or to impress the person. Focus on the person you are dating, not the date itself.
If you search for first date ideas online, you will undoubtedly find dozens of websites with lists of random things to do. Half of these aren't feasible and the other half are absolutely ridiculous first date options. Our aim is to provide you with the advice necessary to choose a first date perfect for anyone you meet while still offering ideas that break away from your traditional dinner and a movie. We start with important tips to keep in mind when planning and going on the first date and then incorporate specific first date examples that follow these guidelines.
Even if you don't create a love connection, you can still have a good time on the first date. In an ideal world, two people could collaborate to come up with a great idea that appeals to both parties. It is more realistic, however, that one person will have to make the decision and present it to the other. This is the reason behind the pressure of planning the first date. An interesting alternative:
Men: When the first date plans are presented, offer to drive but let her know you are fine with meeting. You want to show that you are a gentleman but don't want to pressure her. We generally recommend that women meet men on the first date rather than accept a ride, especially if you met at an online dating website, but it is still a good idea to offer.
When you think of ideas, focus on what you will do if the date goes either exceptionally well or exceptionally awful. You want a date that can be easily extended or ended. If there is a connection, have a plan that comfortably allows the two of you to spend more time together; on the other hand, even good chemistry can be smothered if the date drags out. Most outdoor activities lend themselves to extension by taking a walk after the planned portion ends. Some ideas include:
Creating and continuing conversation is the key to success for any first date. Your main priority is getting to know the other person, and one good strategy for maintaining conversation is to incorporate an element into the date that you can fall back on during awkward silences. Activities that are outside the box usually accomplish this nicely; some ideas are as follows:
A good rule of thumb is to keep the first date relaxed and casual. The dating environment should be as non-threatening as possible. Too many people try to impress their date with a fancy, which undoubtedly means formal, dinner. Atmospheres that are overly formal are too stuffy to really get to know one another; they can choke conversation and add unnecessary awkwardness to the date. Similarly, activities like going to the movies also restrict dialogue by preventing you from conversing freely. If you feel more comfortable with food on the date, try one of these alternative options:
Your idea does not have to be the first of its kind to be successful; we simply suggest that you step outside the traditional first date mentality. Focus on ideas that would truly be enjoyable while allowing you and your date to get to know one another. A good approach is to try something neither of you have every done. This could be challenging without prior communication with the person, such as online messaging at a dating website or a phone conversation with someone you met in person. Some unconventional first date ideas include the following:
Remember, the first date is your chance to get to know someone and decide if you are both interested in a second date. Too many people fixate on making the other person like them and completely lose sight of whether or not there is actually any chemistry. Don't focus on going over the top or worry about impressing your date; fun ideas create a relaxed atmosphere that lends itself to casual, quality conversation. As long as you apply the tips outlined above, you should be just fine.